I want to start this topic with The Holy Quran
The Holy Quran says,
“And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing.” (Surah an-Nur, 24:32)
Marriage is so much more than love and romance.In Islam,
marriage is a social and legal relationship intended to strengthen and
extend family relationships. Islamic marriage begins with a search for
an appropriate partner and is solemnized with an agreement of marriage,
the contract, and the wedding party. Islam is a strong advocate of
marriage, and the act of marriage is considered a religious duty through
which the social unit—the family—is established. Islamic marriage is
the only permissible way for men and women to engage in intimacy.
the new couple settles into life as husband and wife. In an Islamic
marriage, the relationship is characterized by safety, comfort, love,
and mutual rights and responsibilities. In Islamic marriage, a couple
makes obeying Allah the focus of their relationship: The couple must
remember that they are brothers and sisters in Islam, and all of the
rights and duties of Islam also apply to their marriage.
- A couple struggles together to cope when there is a miscarriage, and the loss of love, dreams, and excitement they had for that child.
- A couple struggles together when the bank account is low, hospital bills from a sick child are stacking up, and more work or a higher salary is hard to come by.
- A couple struggles together when one of their parents becomes ill, and after years of care, finally returns to our Lord.
- A couple struggles together through the tantrums of the toddler years, and the storms of trying to keep a close hold on their kids in the teens and young adult years.
- A couple struggles together when facing the loss of their home, or car, or job and how to recreate stability at a time when there seems to be none.
- A couple struggles together when one spouse’s iman is low, and their faith is teetering on the edge, while the other strives hard to keep them both at a safe distance away from that same sharp edge and dramatic fall.
- Marriage is not just about love and romance. It’s also about fulfilling this ayah:
- “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find *tranquillity* in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” Quran 30:21
- Love and romance are what surrounds the marriage to make ease in hard times, laughter in the midst of stress, passion at the most ironic times.
- But it’s depth, the meaning of love, and even romance,should be given so much more depth and value. Hollywood romance doesn’t even come close to this kind of beauty.
- Love is worth the struggle, and the struggle is beautiful.
Finally i want to share with the four main key of each successful marriage.What are the four main attributes of the marriage of the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and blessings upon him) and Khadija (may Allah be
pleased with her)?
you both must me be honest is the engagement period , you both should tell the truth about your personality, if you meant to be together Allah will guide to improve your selves better and better during this time before the actual life after Nikah.
you both must support each other starting from day one , as a life you should do your best to offer and rest and joy to your husband. and as a husband you should offer love security and peace to your wife in good and bad times.
your children is your long term investment, the first step is to educate them Islamic. in order to plant the love of Allah and his messenger in them while they are young. your children is the unbreakable bond between both of you. so make them the main project of your life.
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