WHY YOU SHOULD MARRY ? ISLAMIC VIEW
Marriage makes an incomplete human being a complete one. It makes him/her a
grown up and gives him/her responsibilities whether those responsibilities are
to feed and clothe the wife or to assist the husband. Marriage is supposed to
take a person out of the hectic lifestyle that one is in and place him or her
in an organised environment giving them a path to follow in life and a shoulder
to lean on.
In short marriage arranges one’s life. In Islam a man cannot have relationships with those he can
marry unless it is within marriage. In other words
Islam gives the right to a woman to be a wife of a man independent of the
marriage relationship the man may have with another woman. This is a key
difference because in the modern era a man is not guilty if he has
relationships with a woman outside of marriage but the moment he contracts to
treat this woman equally as his wife, he is criminalised
for illegal behaviour. This is odd as the current common law does not
criminalise the actual relationship of the man with another woman but punishes
the solemn promise/affirmation in writing to continue. Any offspring would be illegitimate as the courts would not recognise polgamy even though it exists and is accepted in behaviour
but not in writing. In some senses the increase in divorce rates and re-marriages
we see nowadays is in some ways a serial version of polygamy!.
There are many reasons that support polygamy but Islam limits the practice to
four wives and is allowed only when one can be fair to
all wives. Polygamy is only mentioned briefly here but
as a subject could be read in further detail elsewhere. Please also note that
the current Law of the land in this regard should be abided
by.
Marriage helps to safeguard one’s imaan (faith)
i.e. it stops one from committing such acts by which s/he could
be considered immoral. Sins such as intermingling with people of the
opposite sex or socialising as it is classed in everyday terms are not
considered to be acceptable in Islam, (because it creates immorality and
immodesty) even though an incredibly large amount of people will hastily class
it as an 'essential' part of one’s day.