We can’t ignore the desire to be loved and appreciated as it is one of our innate needs. But we should avoid getting into haram (forbidden) relationships to fulfill our needs. That is why,Islam emphasizes on early Nikkah (Marriage) to let us satisfy our needs in a halal way. Our spouses are our garments and we are meant to find peace and tranquility in them.
However, some of our brothers and sisters are having a hard time getting married and some don’t feel loved even after their marriage takes place.
Some people face severe depression due to this and start feeling worthless. Some even feel they can’t really enjoy their lives until and unless someone loves them unconditionally. Some people even say they will start praying after they get married.
It is very important to address our emotional needs and keep them balanced. If you are unable to get married right now or dont feel loved by your spouse, you should realize that your life does not end there. There is much more to life than giving in to your emotions and desires.
Things are not in our control above a certain point.We can make dua to Allah to help us find loving and caring spouses and have tawakkul (faith) in Him. But, if it does not happen rightaway, we should not feel hopeless. Allah knows what’s best for us and He will give us that on the right time.
Why do we care so much if a guy/girl does not love us? What about the love that Allah has for all of us? He loves us more than anyone ever can and does not even ask for anything in return. Yet, we give our heart to this world instead of giving it to its Creator.
Loving Allah subhaanahu wa ta’aala and His Prophet [Peace be upon him], following the teachings of Islam and attaining Jannah should be our ultimate goal.
Maryam (Peace be upon her) who was the mother of Prophet Isa Alaihissalaam did not have a husband. Asiyah bint Muzahim was the wife of Fir`awn who was the most tyrannical among the people of the earth and the most disbelieving.Yet she was not affected by her husband’s disbelief, because she obeyed her Lord and attained great ranks. Both of them are among the best women of Jannah.
Some of the Prophets,such as Prophet Lut and Prophet Nuh alaihissalaam had disbelieving wives but that did not stop them from their actual goals. Their LOVE FOR ALLAH was enough for them.
Love Allah and become less reliant on others to feel loved. When your happiness will be dependant on Allah alone, nothing and no one will be able to take that away from you. Your smile will not fade even if you are not loved by any human in this world because the love of Allah will suffice all your needs.
Instead of desperately looking for love, work on developing yourself into a stronger, more knowledgeable and a better Muslim and in sha Allah, everything else will fall into place.
Dua to gain ALLAH’S LOVE: Join us in this beautiful dua
”O Allah! I ask You for Your Love and the love of those who love You, and deeds which will cause me to attain Your Love. O Allah! Make Your Love dearer to me than myself, my family and the cold water”
Allaahumma inni as’aluka hubbaka, wa hubba man yuhibbuka, wal-‘amalalladhi yuballighuni hubbaka. Allaahumm-aj’al hubbaka ahabba ilayya min nafsi, wa ahli, wa minal-maa’il-baarid
(At-Tirmidhi)
Ameen”